So it's almost that time of year again when we see signs of Valentines Day everywhere, a day for couples to celebrate and show how in love and happy they are. Even if this isn't done publicly we can't escape adverts, shop displays and suggestions for how to celebrate. But what if you are single, what if your relationship has recently broken down or you are in a couple but unhappy? What if you are someone who struggles with relationships and making connections with others? What if you are grieving the loss of your loved one?
Well Valentines Day is a marketing ploy, you don't express love on one day of the year just like you don't get blue on one day in January however, saying that it can make even the most comfortable of single people start to question themselves. Is being in a relationship a measure of your success? No, but that doesn't mean it won't feel tough sometimes not having a partner.
So this Valentines Day why not focus on the most important relationship you'll ever have, the relationship with yourself. Do you struggle with self-esteem? Do you find yourself seeking validation from others? How much do you value yourself? If these are areas you struggle with then think about how you can work on yourself. Try to recognise all the positive things you like about yourself and be kind to yourself. If you would never speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself can you work on your self-talk? It might not be easy but it's worth it. There are lots of resources available to help you to build your self-esteem so spend some time doing some reading and see what appeals to you.
“You're always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company”
Diane Von Furstenberg
If you're struggling with self-esteem, relationship breakdowns or the relationship you have with yourself, talking can help. If you would like to explore this further please get in touch.